Common difficulties that working moms face
Describing working mom begins with a definition of duties. These duties can differ depending on the mother but most of them apply to all. A working mom doesn't just go to work and come home but she wears many more hats throughout the day and reports to many different bosses. Being a working mom can give you titles and positions that include accountant, bookkeeper, butler, maid, cook, taxi driver, atm machine, laundry attendant, personal shopper and executive assistant plus many more. When dealing with this level of multi-tasking we as mothers face challenges.
Some of those challenges are priorities. Who is a priority and when? Everyone in your life thinks they should be at the top of list from your boss at work to your children at home. Not to mention other family members and friends. Juggling your time and resources is an act that if not handled properly can create a nasty situation. If you don't make work a priority you jeopardize your career, financial well being and possibly benefits that support your families healthcare needs. On the other hand if you don't make your children a priority then they will suffer.
Finding a balance between work, and family is very important not only to the ones who are counting on you but to you as well. Work is important to many mothers. It helps to pump up the self-esteem level so you feel better about yourself in addition to the financial rewards that can create more opportunities for your family budget. Yet, work alone won't cut the mustard because not being with your children will leave mothers with guilty conscious and angry kids. Finding ways to spend time with them will also improve your outlook, peace within the house and make you a better mother. Schedule one hour or more each night to talk, read or play a game with them. This little bit of attention and love will go a long way even with the teenagers in the house.
Another difficulty mothers face is keeping the house clean, finances in order and people in all the right places. If you are a mother that has a husband take advantage of the partnership. Split some of the family duties. This might not go over well at first but in the long run it will help your relationship and free up some time to spend with the entire family. Ask your partner what roles he would like to fill and give him a chance. In some cases you will find letting go of just one or two things will help relieve a lot of stress. Remember houses that are lived in aren't meant to be spotless. They are homes where families sleep, eat, and live. A clean and organized house is a good thing but letting the dishes go one night a week so you can play a game with the kids isn't going to kill anyone. Driving children around can run a mother crazy. Dance class, tennis lessons, and baseball games all take energy, time, planning and driving. One of two things needs to be done to accomplish a good balance. First split the kids extracurricular activities between your husband and yourself. Or ask extended family members for their help. Grandparents typically love to watch their grandchildren doing things they love. If you don't live close enough to family then limit the children to one activity each, maybe even in different seasons. Limiting them will not scar them for life. It is better that they have support from at least one parent at their games then no parental support at all.
Difficulties will come in many forms ranging from friends, family, money, time or energy. How you deal with them as they come up will determine the level of stress you allow in your life and the lives of your family. Distribution of duties, asking for help when you need it and resisting the temptation to be all things to all people will help reduce the stress and tension you as a mother feels each day.
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