Should couples live together before getting married?

Should couples live together before getting married?

Couples shouldn't live together before getting married because if you get all the experiences out of the way before marriage then why get married? Many young adults today are feeling that way. They put off marriage because they are already playing house with their partner. When you play house before marriage it takes away the excitement of planning for your future as a couple, moving in together after the wedding, and communication on how things will work.

Enjoying getting to know one another through dating and the engagement phase will build communication, future dreams and a strong foundation. This is a time where you and your partner should be able to talk about one another's personal history and share intimate details about hopes and dreams. The two of you should have adventures together that don't include car notes, rent checks and health insurance. These things should be communicated about but should be kept separate before marriage. Dating is supposed to be a time of fun, love and enthusiasm. Why ruin that by pushing the relationship into something it isn't ready to contend without a strong foundation, a commitment towards the future.

Marriage is hard work with a commitment to stay for the good times and the bad. An agreement to only have one partner, share responsibilities, create a future and share the experiences and adventures that come each day. Moving in together doesn't have that commitment. There was no standing in front of God, family and friends vowing to combine the lives of two into one. Accountability goes out the window. Trusting in someone enough to share your love, life, finances and home should come with a commitment not just a shared lease or mortgage.

Living together is not the same as being married. You are not responsible for each other financially, spiritually or emotionally. In a legal view if anything happens to one of the two of you, you are not the next of kin. You have no legal rights to your partner. No decisions can be made for the other in the case of an emergency because you are not married. Spiritually if your partner and yourself aren't willing to stand before God, a court of law, family and friends to announce your commitment how successful are they going to be in helping you spiritually find faith and peace. Emotionally you could feel alone even when your partner is in the house because you didn't take the steps needed to build a strong foundation before deciding to play house.

After moving in together, if you do decide to get married besides the wedding or reception what is there to look forward to? You've already moved in together, you know one another quirks and you share financial responsibilities. Reducing the excitement to enter into marriage because you've already been playing married for years

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